=[ Apparently I'm too fat to have a baby

[myturn]

FS are not meant to treat anyone with a BMI over 35. It is a guideline put down by their professional association.

That said, some do (mine included) but they risk being censured for it.

wow.... I hadn't heard that..... my FS hasn't even mentioned it, apart from saying good job when I say I've lost weight.... he put me on clomid before I even talked about my weight with me....

I guess there is only a little obese and a LOT obese..... and my BMI is still under 40 ATM..... but still, he obviously didn't say it in a way that was sensitive and thoughtful

I agree with the others, go somewhere else..... but of course losing weight is always good - we just know it's not that easy!!!

[nothing2lose]

There are some IVF clinics who refuse to talk to you (apart from really preliminary discussions) unless you get under 35.

[myturn]

There are some IVF clinics who refuse to talk to you (apart from really preliminary discussions) unless you get under 35.

I guess I can understand why, but it's still yuck

isn't BMI and issue in hospitals too, when we finally get UTD, we will have trouble finding a place that will actually let you birth there??

I seriously need to lose weight

[nothing2lose]

I have heard lots of stories about that. I think most smaller hospitals and birthing centres have a BMI cutoff.

[sushee]

My FS was among the few at my clinic who would treat you regardless of your weight. When I made my first call there, they told me which FSs to get in touch with, and which to avoid because they wouldn't even SEE me if my BMI was over 35 . My BMI at that time was around 40 and my FS told me that because I'd fallen pg naturally previously while overweight, and my main fertility issue was blocked tubes, he didn't consider my weight a factor.

See, I like that. I'd rather they accessed you and decided if in fact your weight is a factor. If it is, then like any other treatment, you should be pointed in the right direction to assist you in improving your fertility.

Mind you, I didn't believe that weight was not a factor for me after several failed IVF cycles, so I went on a diet, lost 6kgs in a month, and had my first anovulatory cycle in the whole time I was being monitored. So I stopped dieting and went back to having regular cycles!

In my case, I'm glad a blanket ban on overweight women didn't apply.

I personally don't see what the harm is in trying you with clomid btw. I personally would be looking for another dr, while trying to lose weight at the same time.

[myturn]

totally agree with sushee....

[~~Snoogans~~]

yep, agree with Sushee as well

[maybebaby2012]

Don't quote me but from my research I believe treating pcos with weight loss only is a very old fashioned approach. These days a good FS will take a holistic approach, including diet, possibly meds and including weight loss, which sometimes need only be modest to make a real difference. Best of luck, don't be discouraged!

[RhiChiChi]

My journey was fairly closee to sushees. I had previously fallen pg without AC assistance, so even though I am considered obsese (don't know my BMI) it was a non-issue. I did lose 15 kgs before commencing IVF and I believe it helped. My FS wanted me to lose at least 5% of my bodyweight, which I did.

I know when I was diagnosed with PCO my GP gave me a script for Metformin and told me to follow a low GI diet & exercise everyday. I didn't stick with the Metformin but I did with the diet & exercise. Apart from me losing weight, it gave me something else to focus on & also made me feel really good.

Please don't be discouraged, I know it can be a slap in the face. Perhaps consider a second opinion as well as trying to lose excess weight. Best of luck

[little_O]

When I went to a fs and he recommended clomid I had a bmi of 22. He still mentioned the fact I need to eat healthy, exercise and keep my weight down because it all contributes to helping your fertility. Did feel a bit strange being told to still monitor my weight when I was classed healthy but I think it's a standard suggestion they give. He even mentioned to me that pcos generally makes it hard to manage weight so it can be a catch 22, but everything counts.

He also said you only get the 6 cycles on clomid to make it work so it's best your body is as good as you can get it. I didn't end up taking the clomid and did it with natural therapies which I was lucky it worked.

Could you try for a month or two on a strict diet/exercise regime (if you're not already) and then see another gyno and try fOr clomid again?

As far as the hospital thing, I know in SA they have bought in that rule. No private hospital will take women over a certain bmi, and not even the wch! Only one up north and one down south!
Stay positive hun!!! We're all here to support you!